You say it shifted very hard from first to second. Were you on the highway at the time? I am having the same issue, but it only shows up after driving for a matter of time (10 to 20 minutes) at higher speeds than in the city. In town I never notice, unless of course I just pulled off of the interstate. It is interesting to note that the problem goes away if I turn off the vehicle and start it up again. Is this the same in your case?
In August I noticed a very slight stutter and a flashing o/d light. The dealership replaced the Vehicle Speed Sensor and the DFPE (?) Sensor as a fix, and the problem went away. I was hoping that this would resolve the hard shift, but it did not. I have not experienced the wheel noise, unless I'm just def (very possible).