I hate to be a nag, but it can be reached with a really long t-handle allen wrench with the ball end (I got mine at Sears) that has been slightly ground down...I'm not sure if I would try it without a gasket, especially since you haven't been able to tighten it all the down in the past. At least a gasket would help fill the gap. Install the down pipe, wastegate, and y-pipe outside of the car and you'll be fine, but don't install it until you know its tight.
I do have a ball type t-handle allen wrench, but the one bolt is dificult to get to with the rest of the exhaust installed. I can get to the other three this way and they have been remaining tight.